When we lose our temper, we fall into our emotional brain, and our thinking brain shuts down. When our thinking brain shuts down, we say and do incredibly dumb things. We trigger the primitive part of the brain aka the Amygdala. This stimulation triggers a fight or flight response in ourselves, the recipient of our anger, and anyone who might be within earshot. Rational thinking and responses go out the window.
I learned important lessons about life at a kitchen table in Jackson Heights, Queens when my friend’s Cuban mother invited me to lunch in high school.
My first “real” job at Nathan’s Famous in Rego Park, Queens, New York taught me great life lessons that I still use today.