Quarrelsome Lane in Queens, New York serves as a great reminder about what can happen when we get stuck in a bad communication dynamic. Sometimes we don’t remember why we ended up at this communication impasse and why our behavior choices have us revisiting the same well-trodden route and results.
When we lose our temper, we fall into our emotional brain, and our thinking brain shuts down. When our thinking brain shuts down, we say and do incredibly dumb things. We trigger the primitive part of the brain aka the Amygdala. This stimulation triggers a fight or flight response in ourselves, the recipient of our anger, and anyone who might be within earshot. Rational thinking and responses go out the window.